Holiday romance, or How to Make Friends Not Carnegie’s
About 15 years ago, and maybe more, I was madly interested in one book by Dale Carnegie, sensational in our country at that time, “How to Make Friends and Influence People”. I re-read it several times, took notes. And just now I began to understand for sure - there are more effective methods of making friends!
Just go to the Ocean, well, or say the sea, or get yourself a dog! And I have, as many already know, it turned out as two in one. But still, for starters, I want to recall what the author of this bestseller and his six ways to make friends and generally have people to offer to us at that time, but to add my opinion and understanding on this subject. So let's go.
At first we have the advice “Show sincere interest in other people”
Believe me, when you have a puppy, people themselves will come up to you and show interest. When I just got Oush, only the lazy one didn’t come up and ask: “What kind of breed is this?” Of course, the number of people who correctly remember the breed can be said to be close to zero. And my Oush also visited the Swedish Shepherd, and the Norwegian, and just White. But it is clear - people tried!
The second, oddly enough, "Smile!"
This is understandable and all very simple. So far I have not met a single person who would not smile and not be touched at the sight of a puppy. And how wide a smile appears when your puppy brings you a fish head! Here it’s possible to smile and smile without ceasing.
The third paragraph said that we always remember what is the most important sound for a person: this is the sound of his name
Yes, and probably it is. And walking 4 to 5 times with a small puppy, you will surely remember the names of all the grandmothers sitting on the benches at your entrance. And these grandmothers for the 221st time will finally remember that your puppy's name is not the Fuhrer, but Ocean.
Fourth: “Be a good listener. Encourage others to tell you about themselves. ”
You will not have problems with this either. My vacation with the Ocean lasted only 3 weeks, and you can already write your best seller and even more than one, with the names something like "Notes of an experienced dog breeder" or "I ate a dog with my dog ..."
Well, I’d combine the fifth and sixth tips, as their meaning is similar. Here, the author advises us to conduct a conversation in the circle of interests of your interlocutor and to let people feel their significance.
And indeed, all this is very interconnected. And you understand this especially when you meet that very “experienced” dog breeder, and he, of course, will begin to explain to you in detail how many times a day you should walk, how and what to feed, and what you must do to keep the dog “ right. "
And now, the month of my life at the Ocean has not even ended yet, and there are more acquaintances and friends than, probably, in my entire short life, both real and virtual. And yet ... everything will become much more interesting, when suddenly, like this by chance, the most resort romance begins in your life ...